Homophobia

[mortecno]

being faced with such close minded and just plain offensive individuals, how do you deal with them in person and online?

what's your story regarding homophobes bigotry ?

[mortecno]

A few friends of mine in highschool who i had come out in college quite honestly by accident and trickery. 3 of who i no longer speak to and 2 i just find incredibly offensive and homophobic but still try to be friends with me. the 2 guys homophobes also received the same amount of silence from me as my former other 3 friends.  the two homophobes actually want to do a intervention on me regarding my sexuality.....

[Bananafish]

I consider myself lucky since most of my high school friends have been very accepting since I came out to them. But then, I was not the first guy to come out in our circle, so it's not like I was the odd man out.

I've never been the target homophobia myself, but I had spoken out against co-workers before who'd make strong and unfounded statements against gay people.

[mortecno]

i honestly don't know what is wrong with people in general when it comes those who are gay... like recently a calssmate of mine in a review center who also goes to my alma matter made a comment regarding someone gay and i find it incredibly offensive that she referred to him as an it.....

[Bananafish]

i honestly don't know what is wrong with people in general when it comes those who are gay... like recently a calssmate of mine in a review center who also goes to my alma matter made a comment regarding someone gay and i find it incredibly offensive that she referred to him as an it.....

It surprises me as well how people in Manila and other cosmopolitan areas at this day and age are still prone to bigoted thinking. But then, sometimes I catch myself thinking those same thoughts as well. We've been raised to think of these things as part of social mores, it makes it difficult for us to question the basis of these ideas. Even among gay people, there are instances of internal homophobia.

The thing is for us to identify these instances so we could be made aware of them and figure out how we could correct our way of thinking/speaking/acting in a way that makes us more tolerant.

[levi]

i hate how they make "gay" sounds bad in children's ears.

[damien]

How do you deal?

By being a better person than the one who makes you feel less, by being a great example and not be just some silly stereotype they cast us to be, by having a demeanor that can make them feel you're someone they ought to respect because you deserve it.

That's all they can take away from us, our confidence, our bright future, our creativity. The time you prove to yourself and the people around you that you deserve more, homophobia will slowly disappear. We're blessed at this day and age that somehow a lot has changed, many are respected for what they do even locally. It's up to us, to get that swagger of awesomeness up and running.

[caleb]

being faced with such close minded and just plain offensive individuals, how do you deal with them in person and online?

what's your story regarding homophobes bigotry ?

I usually try to use reason with these types of people. Mostly bigots, because of their narrow mindedness, are easily trapped in an intellectual discourse. So whenever I hear a snide or offensive remark, I would often start with "O tapos?" or "So ano ngayon kung..." then follow with a tirade of arguments about gender equality. From my experience, some of their homophobia (if not from ignorance of preconceived notions) comes from some previous bad experience with homosexuals. Either they were verbally harassed or they have been offered lewd and unwanted sexual advances. This makes them think that all gays are like that. I usually make them feel that what they have had experience with is just a small contingent of the gay populace.

When it comes to dealing with bigots, patience is of utmost importance. If we lose our cool and act the way they do, then we become no different than they are.

[exceedlover]

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[Lanchie]

[Elphaba]

parang doble ang thread about homophobia

[mortecno]

lol

parang doble ang thread about homophobia

talaga?

[Elphaba]

parang nakakita kasi ako ng similar thread kahapon. anyway, will let u know pag nakita ko ulit.